I was so proud of Millie tonight that I sat her down and told her about it. Don’t get me wrong, we always praise the girls if they’ve done something good or well, but tonight it seemed worthwhile sitting the girl down and making a fuss of her.
Millie had a friend over to play after school tonight – something we haven’t done for a while because, well, she just wasn’t very good at it last time – tantrums ensued, we were embarrassed; it just wasn’t worth the hassle so it was decided some time ago there would be no more friends round till Millie was older.
Tonight’s visit by one of Millie’s very best friends from school went much better. It helps that the child in question is almost supernaturally polite and clever. Seriously. He used the word “reciprocate” in conversation this evening and was dazzling both Amber and Millie with magic tricks.
Despite this cleverness – or, more likely, because of it – his mum happened to mention that he’d been bullied a little bit at school recently, but that Millie, his best friend, had stood by him. She hadn’t personally seen the bullies off – nothing quite so brave – but did have the self-confidence and loyalty to stick by her friend.
After he’d gone home I sat Millie down, gave her a big hug and made sure she knew exactly how proud we were of her.
It’s a small thing in the grand scheme of things, but if you can’t help your friends when they need it then what kind of friend are you? It gave me hope that we really are bringing up our kids the right way. 🙂
Oh, and I visited my new employer today to sort out some paperwork and found out that they want me to start on Monday. Having seen my new boss and new office in a non-interview context I can honestly say that I’m looking forward to starting on Monday. 🙂